this is the picture efei sent me last time when i was down becoz of someone who wasnt worth my tears.. ha.. it's so cute... n so true... my guy frens tell me tt it's very provocative.. well.. so wad? i believe many gals wud agree withi this picture..i've been relating with a lot of things tt happened in my life to the book i am reading.. n i have identified so many common problems everyone face... it says tt when men are stressed up, when they have problems to solve, they go to their caves.. tt's Martians.. n well of coz when they go to their cave, they are untouchable. they get so focused in solving tt big problem of theirs tt they become oblivious of their surrounding... probably tt's y sometimes women regard them as the most insensitive creatures in the planet.. n the books says tt men n women shud understand their differences so tt they wud not take these "difference in expectations" personally. for example, when a man goes to his cave, he is powerless to give his partner quality attention she deserves. The man tend to forget tt his friends and other pple have their problems too. In this case, the book suggests tt a women shud understand tt his action does not show he loves her any less or she is unimportant to him... ha.. true.. it helps.. but was happens if the gal also have problems n she needs him? is it a good excuse for the man for not being able to be there for his gal? is it a good excuse for the gal for failing to be understanding and supportive instead? who shud be the one making the sacrifice, to throw away his/her problem aside for a while to be there for the partner? how do we know whu's problem is bigger? everyone values it differently.. the book does not say how.. n i wonder wad shud be done..
perhaps we shud all be more independent..
sometimes i wonder...
men claim tt it is very difficult to understand women..
so wad about men? r they any better?
men likes to feel needed.. it is the way to motivate men..
men ask women to feel free to show her weaknesses to him..
if not he feels unworthy of her love..
so women becomes more dependent on men..
n when u r needed, but u have ur own "bigger"problems, u hide in ur cave n leave ur poor gal outside crying n doing lots of nonsense to get ur attention..
she may claim tt u r not giving her enuff attention
she may say things like u dun love her enuff..
she may say tt she can find better guys outside, y is she still sticking with u..
she may pick on everything tt u do...
she'll just do all sorts of nonsense... unreasonable or not...
she probably wudn't make any sense at all..
so u have a good excuse for not being able to be there for her..
helplessly, she decides tt she has to understand wad u r gg thru.. n assumes some reason to console herself.. so wad's the onli way out? i feel it's still best tt women can be independent as far as possible.. in times like these, u r the onli one who can help urself.. u cant expect others to be there for u.. becoz they may also be gg thru some rough time.. may be if u r lucky, some gd fren of urs who's free n cheerful for the day will pop by n pull u up from the quick sand.. moral of the stroy is.. when u feel helpless.. u tried to crawl out of tt shit but u fail.. when u did all sorts of nonsense n call for help but to no avail.. stop struggling.. becoz u will just fall in faster.. just wait... i like to be in control.. but perhaps hk is right... no one can be in total control of their lives... just do wad u can.. when u cant, may be losing control is the way to the problem..
am i making sense? coz it seems like i am just typing wadever tt comes to my mind..
~ but i am onli human... ~ or rather woman...